If you love someone, shouldn't you be able to accept his/her shortcomings? why is separation or divorce even in the picture?

but, as i grew older, i realise that there are many reasons that could lead to that inevitable move. the lack of romance. the fading away of passion. marriage becomes a commitment and couples often forget about why the fall in love with each other in the first place.

let me first just share with you some of the definitions of romance, according to dictionary.com:

- a romantic spirit, sentiment, emotion, or desire.
- romantic character or quality.
- a romantic affair or experience; a love affair.

when it's use as a verb, romance is defined as:

- to invent or relate romances
- to think or talk romantically
- to court or woo romantically

as you can see above, romance is a feeling, an experience and an action. you can't feel it if you don't work on it. as cliched as it may sound, but it really does take two to tango.

Some people are sadly not aware of how their partner expresses their love - something that it is crucial to understand. some men are naturally romantic, affectionate and expressive. others will show their love by doing jobs that are required, calling everyday, being on time, spending time with their partner and listening to their problems.

a partner should think of those moments that are filled with happiness, love and understanding. this builds faith not only in ourselves, but also in our partner and reinforces the love we have for them. many times as relationships go forward, we tend to think of bad memories and this kills the romance in a relationship.

i suppose, fun and pleasure are an important part of romance - sharing private jokes, laughing at ridiculous situations or behaviour and enjoying 'little' things are all essential parts of keeping the romance alive.

couples can reignite romance by simply enjoying one another’s company and spending time together. they should enjoy each other’s company without thinking of other things that may rob them of their joy of being together. being present with their partner and enjoying the time they have together, is the greatest joy a couple can experience.